Gussa aur khud ko nuqsan pahunchana - hal kya hai?
Agar aapko bahut zyada gussa aata hai aur aap apne bachon ko maarke khud ko maarti hain, to yeh trauma ki nishani ho sakti hai. Is page mein hum aapko batayenge ke is gusse aur pachtave se kaise nikal sakte hain.
Mujhe bahut jyada gussa aati hai, ek ghanta ya ek din ke baad apne khud ko kabu nahi kar sakti. Apne bacchon ke marte ho main apne chehre ko marti hun, phir uske baad bahut pachtava hote hain, kya iska hal hai?
Aap jo kuch bata rahi hain, yeh koi aam gussa nahi hai — yeh gussa aapke qaboo se bahar ho raha hai, aur iske baad jo pachtawa hota hai, woh apni jagah aur bhi mushkil hai. Yeh sach mein bada sakht masla hai, aur aap akeli nahi hain jo isse guzar rahi hain. Iska hal zaroor hai, lekin iske liye samajh aur sabar dono chahiye.
Pehle yeh samjhein kya ho raha hai
Aapka gussa itna zyada is liye aa raha hai kyunki andar koi dard, thakaan ya tanhai chhupi hui hai — aur jab woh had se badhti hai, toh dimaag ka woh hissa jo gussa rokta hai, kaam karna band kar deta hai. Aap apne aap ko marna aur phir pachtana, yeh bata raha hai ke aap apne gusse se bhi dar gayi hain. Yeh aapki ghalati nahi, yeh ek aisi halat hai jo madad se theek ho sakti hai.
Ab kya karein — do kaam jo abhi kar sakti hain
- Gusse ke waqt ek chhoti si rukawat daalein: Jab gussa aaye, fauaran apne munh ko haath se dhak lein, ya kamre se baahar nikal kar pani pi lein. Yeh 10 second ka rukna aapko aapke gusse par thoda qaboo de sakta hai. Aap apne bacchon ke saamne aisa karein, toh woh bhi seekhenge ke gussa kaise roka ja sakta hai.
- Apne liye ek "safety word" rakhein: Jaise "bas" ya "ruk" — yeh aap apne aap se kahein jab gussa badhne lage. Yeh aapke dimaag ko ek signal dega ke ab rukna hai.
Aur agle kuch dinon mein
- Kisi se baat karein jo aapko samjhe: Aap apne kisi bharose ke doctor, ya Depression.pk ke Zara se baat kar sakti hain — Zara se aap /community mein bhi guftagu kar sakti hain. Yeh raaz ki baat hai aur koi faisla nahi karega.
- Ek din mein 5 minute apne liye nikalein: Jaise ke akeli chai peena, ya aankhen band karke 5 saans lena. Yeh chhota sa kaam aapke dimaag ko thoda thanda kar sakta hai.
Sab se important baat: Aapne apne aap ko maarna yeh aapke liye khatarnak ho sakta hai. Agar aapko lagta hai ke aap khud ko zyada chot pahuncha sakti hain, toh kisi bhi waqt kisi bharose ke doctor ya Depression.pk ke Zara se baat karein. Aap is akeli nahi hain, aur aap isse nikal sakti hain — inshallah.
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