Trauma Recovery Mein Khud Ko Prefer Karna Seekhein
Trauma se healing ka safar aasan nahi hota, aur beech mein udaasi aana bilkul normal hai. Is page par hum samjhenge ke khud ko prefer karne aur ignore karne ke beech ke is uljhan mein ab aap kya kar sakti hain.
Mujhe samajh nahi aata ke main apne aap ko prefer karoon ya ignore
Main apne trauma se heal karna shuru ki thi lekin ab bhi kisi waqt udas ho jaati hoon. Main apne aap ko prefer karna seekh rahi hoon lekin phir bhi mujhe lagta hai main apne aap ko ignore kar rahi hoon. Mujhe yeh samajhne mein madad chahiye ke main ab kya karoon.
5 saal pehle trauma se heal karna shuru karna, aur aaj tak khud par kaam karna — yeh koi chhota kaam nahi hai. Jo confusion aap ko ho rahi hai ke "main apne aap ko prefer kar rahi hoon ya ignore kar rahi hoon", yeh confusion bhi is safar ka hissa hai. Iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap galt kar rahi hain; iska matlab hai ke aap ke andar purana pattern aur naya pattern dono zinda hain.
Yeh confusion kyun aati hai
Jab hum saalon tak apne aap ko ignore karte aaye hain, toh apne aap ko prefer karna ajeeb lagta hai. Dil kehta hai ke "yeh selfish toh nahi?" — aur yeh aawaz purane waqt ki hai, aap ki nahi. Aap apne aap ko ignore nahi kar rahin; bas naya raasta abhi itna familiar nahi hai, isliye kabhi kabhi aisa lagta hai ke kuch galt ho raha hai.
Ek chhota sa tareeqa
- Roz ek chhota kaam sirf apne liye kijiye, chahe woh 5 minute ka ho.
- Jab udasi lagay, apne aap se poochiye: "Kya aaj maine apne saath koi chhota achha kaam kiya?"
- Agar jawab haan hai, toh aap ignore nahi kar rahin. Agar nahi, toh kal woh 5 minute zaroor nikalna.
Jab udasi aaye toh
Udasi ko yeh mat samjhiye ke aap ki mehnat bekaar gayi. Yeh waves ki tarah aati hai aur chali jati hai. Jab aaye, us waqt apne aap ko bura bhala na kahen. Bas keh dein: "Yeh waqt hai, aur main is waqt se guzar rahi hoon."
Aap sahi raaste par hain. 5 saal pehle jo aap thi aur aaj jo hain — dono mein farq hai. Zara jab bhi dil kare, aapse baat karne ke liye maujood hai.
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