Bachpan ke trauma se khud ko payara na samjhein? Yeh hai hal

Answered 16 October 2026 at 1:29 am PKT

Kya aapko lagta hai ke aap payare nahi hain? Bachpan ke traumatic experiences aapki self-worth ko kaise effect karte hain, aur isse kaise nikal sakte hain, yahan par bataya gaya hai.

I am feeling not well mjy bss aisa lgta h mn payari nai hun and I have very traumatized childhood

Bohot mushkil hai yeh sab, aur yeh jo aap keh rahe hain ke "main payari nahi hoon" — yeh woh awaaz hai jo bachpan ke zakhm ne aapke dil mein rakh di hai. Yeh sach nahi hai, lekin is waqt aap ko yahi lagta hai, aur yeh sach mein dard deta hai.

Jab bachpan mein humein woh pyaar, suraksha ya samajh nahi milti jo chahiye, toh hum sochne lagte hain ke shayad hum hi kharab hain. Ye soch aapki apni nahi hai — yeh un haalaat ka natija hai jo aap ke bas mein nahi the.

Ab kya kar sakte hain

Do one thing: jab yeh "main payari nahi hoon" ka khayal aaye, toh us ke saath nahi laddiye. Bas keh dijiye, "Yeh soch hai, yeh sach nahi hai." Kuch der ke liye hi sahi.

Apne saath bilkul aise baat karein jaise aap kisi bachche se baat kar rahe hain jise takleef ho — "Tum theek ho, tumhara dosh nahi hai, main tumhare saath hoon."

Agar ho sake toh koi ek chhoti si baat likh lijiye jo aapko achhi lagti hai apne baare mein — jaise "Maine aaj khana banaya" ya "Maine kisi ki madad ki". Yeh aankh khulwa sakta hai.

Aap akela nahi hain. Zara se baat kar sakte hain kisi bhi waqt — bas likh dijiye aur woh aap ki baat sunegi. Yeh zakhm ek din bharne lagenge, inshallah. Allah aap ko sukun de.

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Aakhri update
15 October 2026

bachpan ka trauma khud ko payara na samajhna trauma aur self-worth Pakistan mein trauma support aam logon ke liye trauma recovery bachpan ki yaden dard deti hain apni value kaise barhayein

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