Trauma: questions answered

Answered 6 November 2026 at 9:19 pm PKT

Meri larkiyon par bharosa toot gaya aur ab revenge ke khayal aate hain

Main bachpan se larkiyon ke saath trust-breaking experiences seh raha hoon. Ab mujhe unke khilaf hatred, gussa aur revenge ke thoughts aate hain, kabhi kabhi violent bhi. Main chahta hoon ke ek psychiatrist meri poori emotional history samjhe aur online consultation kare.

Aapne jo kuch share kiya hai, yeh sach mein bahut mushkil aur gehrai se bhara hai. Aapne apne emotions, distrust, anger aur revenge thoughts ko imaandari se bayan kiya hai — aur yeh samajhna ke aapko professional assessment ki zaroorat hai, ek bahut ahem pehla qadam hai. Aap akela mehsoos kar rahe hain, aur pichle tajurbaat ne aapko zakham diya hai. Yeh sab waqayi mein takleef deh hai, aur aap isko judge kiye baghair samajhna chahte hain — hum yahan wohi karte hain.

Pahle, yeh samjhein

Aapke dimaag mein aayi nafrat, gussa aur badle ke khayalat — yeh aapki andar ki shiddat aur zakhm ki nishani hain, na ke aap asal mein kya hain. Jab koi insaan baar baar reject ho, trust toote, aur woh emotional safety na mile, toh dimaag apna bachav karne ke liye yeh raaste nikalta hai. Lekin yeh dimaag ka defense mechanism hai, ek survival instinct — aap "bura" nahi hain. Aap confusion aur dard mein hain, aur yahi woh cheez hai jise ek trained professional samajh sakta hai.

Aap ab kya kar sakte hain

Psychiatrist se online milna: Aapne sahi kaha — online consultation aapki privacy aur convenience ke liye behtareen hai. depression.pk ke /find-help section mein aap kuch aise professionals ki list pa sakte hain jo online bhi lete hain. Wahan jaakar "Online" filter karein.
Apni poori history batayein: Jab aap milenge to psychiatrist ko woh sab batayein jo aapne yahan likha hai — childhood trust-breaking, rejection ka dard, revenge thoughts aur aapka current anger. Koi judgment nahi hoga, sirf assessment.
Apne anger ko kuch waqt ke liye rokne ke liye: Aapne bataya ke 3 din se gussa zyada hai. Jab gussa bhadke, to ek deep saans lein, apne aap ko 4-5 minute ke liye room se bahar nikalein, ya koi aisi cheez karein jo aapko physically busy rakhe (walk, exercise, haathon ko kaam mein lagein). Yeh gussa kam nahi karega, lekin aapko control mein rakh sakta hai jab tak professional help na mile.
Zara se baat karein: Aap kisi bhi waqt depression.pk ke Zara se baat kar sakte hain. Woh aapki baat sunegi, judge nahi karegi, aur aapko resources tak leke jayegi.

Akhri baat

Aapne likha "main bura banna chahta hoon" — lekin aap yahan madad maang rahe hain. Yeh dono feelings sath ho sakti hain. Aap confusion mein hain, aur is confusion ka ilaaj ek professional se milna hai. Koi aapko "judge" nahi karega. Sirf samjhega. Yahi aap deserve karte hain. Inshallah, aap ek acha psychiatrist paenge aur yeh dard gradually kam hoga.

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6 November 2026

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