Shohar Tak Pahunchne Mein Dar: Kya Karein Jab Izzat Ka Masla Ho?

Asked by Saima, Gujranwala · 21 October 2026 at 10:02 pm PKT

Yeh page un shadi-shuda aurton ke liye hai jo apne shohar se baat karne mein dar mehsoos karti hain, khaas kar jab unhe ignore kiye jaane ka khauf ho. Yahan hum aapko batayenge ke is dar ko kaise samjhein aur apne rishte mein dubaara taluq kaise banayein.

Mere shohar ke saath woh raat ka waqt ab akela hai, aur main unhe bahut yaad karti hoon. Unhe batana chahti hoon lekin dar lagta hai ke ignore karenge, aur baar baar jhukna apni izzat ke khilaf lagta hai. Ab main kya karoon?

Yeh sach mein bahut mushkil hai — raat ka waqt, tanhai, aur dil mein shohar ki yaad. Aap ka dar bhi sahi hai ke shayad woh ignore karein, aur phir aapko lagta hai ke baar baar jhukna apni izzat ke khilaf hai. Yeh dono baatein aapke andar ki ek uljhan dikha rahi hain: aap chahti hain ke woh aapko samjhein, lekin aap yeh bhi nahi chahti ke aap ki kadar kam ho.

Do chhoti baatein sochiye:

Ek baar aur likh dijiye, lekin bina kisi ummeed ke. Jaise "Mujhe aap ki yaad aa rahi hai, bas yeh batana tha." Yeh aap ki taraf se ek khula haath hai, na ke maang. Agar jawab nahi aata to aap ko pata hai ke aap ne apna dil rakh diya — yeh izzat ka sawaal nahi, dil ka sawaal hai.
Ya phir ek din ruk kar dekhiye. Agar aap hamesha pehle karti hain, to ek baar kuch din chup reh kar dekhein. Agar woh khud aap tak aate hain to samajh lijiye keh unhe bhi fark padta hai. Agar nahi aate, to aapko yeh baat unse seedhi baat karni hogi — “Mujhe lage raha hai ke main ignore ho rahi hoon, aur yeh mujhe dukh deta hai.”

Aap ki izzat kisi ek kaam se nahi banti — aap ki izzat is cheez se banti hai keh aap apne jazbaat ko sach kehne se nahi dartin. Agar aap likhti hain to be-izzati nahi hai, mohabbat hai. Aur agar chup rehti hain to bhi be-izzati nahi, soch hai. Dono mein galat kuch nahi.

Aap chahein to Zara se baat kar sakti hain — kabhi kisi aur se kehne se bhi rahat milti hai.

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