Rejection ke darr par kabu aur apni baat rakhna
Yeh page samjhata hai ke rejection ka darr, na sune jane par stress aur gussa kyun barh sakta hai. Is mein apni baat mehfooz aur asardaar tareeqay se rakhne ke practical qadam bataye gaye hain.
Bachpan se mujhe rejection ka bohat darr hai, is liye main kuch maangne ya apni baat rakhne se bachti hoon. Jab koi meri baat nahi sunta to mujhe stress aur gussa aata hai, aur main apne is behavior se bohat pareshan hoon. Is darr aur reaction par kabu pane ka koi tareeqa hai?
Bilkul, aur pehli baat yeh ke aap akeli nahi hain jo aisa mehsoos karti hain. Rejection ka dar aur phir gussa aana, yeh ek aam insaani reaction hai, khaaskar jab aap bachpan se sun rahi hon ke "nahi" ya "yeh theek nahi" to dar lagta hai. Yeh dar aapki soch ka hissa ban gaya hai, lekin iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap is par kabu nahi rakh sakti.
Pehle samjhiye kya ho raha hai
Aapka dar asal mein aik "safety device" hai. Aapne bachpan mein seekh liya ke kuch maangna ya apni baat rakhna khatarnak hai kyunki iske saath rejection ka dard hota hai. To ab aapka dimaag, aapko protect karne ke liye, aapko aisi situations se door rakhta hai. Phir jab koi aapki nahi sunta, toh woh purana dard aur gussa ek saath ubhar aata hai. Yeh gussa dar ka hi ek chehra hai.
Do kaam jo aap abhi kar sakti hain
- Ek choti cheez se shuru karein: Aaj ya kal, ek choti si request karein jismein rejection ka riska kam ho. Jaise kisi dost se puchna ke "Tum mujhe kal phone karna?" Ya kisi shopkeeper se "Yeh cheez thodi kam hai, badal sakte ho?" Pehle toh aap dar mehsoos karengi, lekin jab aap request karengi aur kuch bhi ho (haan ya nahi), toh aapka dimaag dheere dheere seekhe ga ke yeh itna khatarnak nahi hai. Kamyabi ya nakaami pe focus nahi karein – sirf request karne ka kaam karein.
- Reaction ko rukne ka mauka dein: Jab gussa aata hai, toh aapka shareer pehle react karta hai. Ek saans lein, 10 tak gin lein, aur apne aap se kahein: "Yeh mera purana dar hai, yeh mera gussa mera dard dikha raha hai." Yeh rukna hi pehla qadam hai kabu pane ka. Phir batao ke "Main is waqt gussa hoon, lekin yeh gussa mera hissa nahi banta." aise hi aap reaction aur aap ke beech mein faasla rakh sakti hain.
Kya aap zara soch sakti hain ke woh kya hai jo aapko sabse zyada dar lagta hai ke agar aapne kaha toh kya hoga? Yeh soch kar, aap agla qadam utha sakti hain.
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