Partner Boundaries Kaise Qayam Rakhein Jab Woh Hungama Kare
Is page par hum baat karenge ke jab aap apne partner se kuch waqt ke liye doori chahti hain aur woh hungama karta hai to apni hadd kaise qayam rakhein. Aapko batayenge ke apne sabar ko bachate hue boundaries set karna kaise mumkin hai.
Main chahti hoon kuch waqt ke liye us se baat na karon taake sab teek ho jaye, lekin woh maanta nahi aur hungama karta hai. Uski wajah se mujhe lagta hai ke main hi ghalti par hoon, aur mera sabar toot jata hai. Main apni hadd kaise qayam rakhun bina is ke main mazeed takleef mehsoos karoon?
Aap ka yeh sochna ke kuch waqt ke liye faasla lena theek ho sakta hai, bilkul sahi hai. Jab aap apni hadd qayam rakhna chahti hain aur saamne wala nahi maanta aur hungama karta hai, to aap ko lagta hai ke aap hi ghalti par hain, lekin yeh sach nahi hai. Aap ki apni jagah aur sukoon ki zaroorat hai, aur woh maangna aap ka haq hai. Yeh mushkil zaroor hai, lekin aap is hadd ko bina takleef ke qayam rakh sakti hain.
Yeh aap ki ghalti nahi
Jab koi aap ki hadd par hungama karta hai, to woh aap ke faisle ko kamzor karne ki koshish hoti hai. Iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap ghalti par hain. Aap ko faasla lene ka haq hai, chahe woh kitna bhi naraz ho. Aap ke andar ka sabar tootna is liye hota hai ke aap khud ko samjha rahi hain ke shayad aap hi galat hain, lekin aap galat nahi hain.
Hadd qayam rakhne ke liye
- Saaf aur seedha batayein: "Mujhe kuch waqt chahiye, yeh mere liye zaroori hai." Zyada wajah na den.
- Agar woh zid kare ya argue kare, to aap baar baar wohi baat dohrayein: "Main apni jagah par hoon."
- Debate mein na padein. Aap ko apna faisla justify karne ki zaroorat nahi.
- Agar hungama badh jaaye, to wahan se uth kar chale jaayein. Yeh aap ki hadd hai.
Jab hungama ho to kya karein
Us waqt aap ka zehan kehne lagega ke aap ne ghalti ki, lekin rukein. Gahri saans lein aur apne aap ko yaad dilayein ke aap ne yeh faisla kisi bina par nahi kiya. Aap ki hadd qayam rakhna aap ka haq hai, aur yeh aap ko bura insaan nahi banata. Agar aap chahein to kisi bharose mand se baat kar lein, lekin apne faisle par qayam rahein.
Aap is qabil hain ke apni hadd qayam rakh sakti hain. Yeh waqt aap ke liye bhi mushkil hai, lekin apne sukoon ko pehle rakhein. Agar kabhi baat karna chaahein, Zara yahaan hai.
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