Logon se comparison aur narazgi ka dar: anxiety kaise door karein?
Kya aap bhi doosron se apna comparison karte hain aur unki baaton ko dil par lete hain? Yeh anxiety aur OCD ki wajah se ho sakta hai, aur is page mein hum aapko batayenge ke apne aap ko pehle kaise rakhein aur sakoon kaise paayein.
Mujhe apne aas-paas ke logon se apna comparison karna aur unki baaton ko dil par lena bahut tang kar raha hai. Main chahti hoon ke main khud ko pehle rakhoon, lekin mujhe dar lagta hai ke koi mujhse naraz na ho jaye. OCD ki wajah se bhi meri life mushkil ho gayi hai, aur main bas sakoon chahti hoon.
Yeh sach mein mushkil hai, aur aap akeli nahi hain jo yeh mehsoos kar rahi hain. Apne aap ko doosron se compare karna aur har baat dil par lena — yeh thakaan aur pareshani dono deta hai. Aur OCD ka alag pressure, toh sochiye kitna kuch aap ek saath ujha rahi hain. Aap sakoon chahti hain, aur woh mumkin hai, lekin uske liye kuch chhotay qadam uthaane honge.
Pehle apni zimmedari, phir doosron ki
Aap dar rahi hain ke koi naraz na ho jaye — yeh bohot aam baat hai, khaas kar jab hum apne aap ko pehle rakhna chahte hain. Lekin yaad rakhiye: aap kisi ko khush rakhne ki zimmedari nahi utha sakti. Jo log aapse sach mein pyar karte hain, woh aapki hadon ko samjhenge. Aur jo nahi samjhte, unki narazgi aapki life ka control nahi honi chahiye.
- Ek baat try karein: jab koi baat aapko touch kare, toh us waqt kuch nahi bolein. Phir baad mein sochein: "Yeh baat mere baare mein kitni sach hai?" Aksar hum woh maan lete hain jo doosre kehte hain, lekin woh unka apna projection hota hai.
- Doosra: rozana 2-3 cheezein likhein jo aapne apne liye achi ki hain — choti si bhi. Isse aapka focus apni taraf aata hai.
OCD aur sakoon ka rasta
OCD ke saath jeena aapki rooh ko thakata hai, kyunki dimaag ek hi baat ko baar-baar ghoomata hai. Aap sakoon chahti hain, lekin woh sakoon OCD ke daur mein door lagta hai. Iska matlab yeh nahi ke aap bebas hain.
- Ek kaam: jab OCD ka khayal aaye (jaise kisi baat ka dar ya kisi cheez ka dobarah check karna), toh usse 10 minute baad karna ka irada karein. Yeh "delay" dimaag ko thoda control deta hai.
- Doosra: apne aap se kehna seekhein: "Yeh OCD hai, main nahi." Yeh alag karna bahut madad karta hai. Aur agar yeh bohat zyada ho raha hai, toh kisi aise professional se milna jo OCD ka ilm rakhta ho — woh aapko specific techniques sikha sakte hain.
Aap sakoon ke qabil hain, aur woh aane mein waqt lagega, lekin har chhota qadam aapko uske qareeb le jaata hai. Agar aap chahein, depression.pk/tools mein kuch worksheets hain jo OCD ke thoughts ko handle karne mein madad karti hain. Aur haan, apne aap par rahem karein — aap bohot kuch jhel rahi hain, aur woh tareef ke laiq hai.
Names and cities shown here are examples. Every question is published anonymously — we never ask for, store or show the name, city or contact details of the person who wrote it.
You don't have to work this out from an article. We're free, private, and here right now — in English, Urdu or Roman Urdu. No signup, no waiting, no judgement.
More on Anxiety & panic
Other questions people asked about the same thing, answered the same way.
Book with our professionals
Private one-to-one sessions with qualified psychologists and psychiatrists. We charge you nothing — the fee is the professional's own.
Noman Ramzan
Clinical Psychologist · Multan Chungi Lahore · online
Rs 2,500 / 60 min
Ayesha kanwal
Counselling Psychologist · Yazman · online
Rs 2,000 / 60 min
Nughza Zaheer
Psychiatrist · Lahore · online
Rs 5,500