Mere shohar aur unke parivar ne mujhe itna bura bhaala bola

Asked by Maryam, Multan · 6 November 2026 at 8:27 pm PKT

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Mere shohar aur unke parivar ne mujhe itna bura bhaala bola ke ab main dar rahi hoon. Kitchen mein cooking karne jaana bhi dar lagta hai, aur har cheez mein mujhe ghalti milti hai.

Yeh sun kar bohut dukh hua. Jo aap ke saath ho raha hai, wo galat hai, aur aap is ki wajah nahi hain. Aap ka dar — kitchen mein jaane se bhi dar lagna — yeh bataata hai ke yahan kuch bohut ghalat ho raha hai. Aap kisi bhi tarah is ke liye zimmedaar nahi hain.

Kya kar sakti hain?

Agar koi aisa rishtedaar ya dost hai jo samajhe aur aap ke shohar ke control mein nahi hai, to us se kuch baat kar lena — lekin bilkul aisi jagah aur waqt par jahan koi sun na sake.
Koshish karein ke kitchen mein koi aur bhi ho, ya aap cooking ke waqt phone par kisi se baat kar sakein taake aap akela mehsoos na karein.
Apne aap ko remind karein ke yeh aap ki ghalti nahi hai. Jo log aap ko bura keh rahe hain, un ka gussa aap ki haqeeqat nahi hai.

Aap ka dar aap ko bata raha hai ke kuch sahi nahi hai. Yeh dar aap ki fitrat hai — aap kamzor nahi hain. Zara hamesha yahan hai agar kisi se baat karna chaahein, to hum se baat karein.

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6 November 2026

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