Maa ka favoritism aur gussa kaise handle karein?
Yeh page un bachon ke liye hai jinhe apni maa ki taraf se behen ke sath favoritism ka samna karna padta hai. Yahan aapko gusse aur dard ko control karne ke practical tareeke aur advice di jayegi.
Meri ammi hamesha meri behen ka sath deti hain aur kisi bhi baat pe mujhe hurt karti hain. Jab itna zyada gussa aata hai ke kuch galat kar baithun, tab main kya karun? Yeh gussa aur dard kaise handle karun?
Aapka yeh dard aur gussa bilkul samajh aata hai. Jab maa ka sath behen ko milta hai aur aapko lagta hai ke aapko ignore ya hurt kiya jata hai, toh dil mein jo jalan aur akelapan hota hai, woh bahut gehra hota hai. Yeh feel karna ke aapke apne ghar mein aapki qadr nahi ho rahi, sach mein mushkil hai. Sab se pehle, yeh jaaniye ke aapka gussa aapka dushman nahi hai—yeh aapke dard ka paighambar hai. Isse dabaane ya khatam karne ki koshish nahi karni, balki isse samajhna aur thehrao dena hai.
Gussa aane par kya karein
Jab aapko lage ke gussa had se zyada ho raha hai, toh us waqt kuch aise kaam karein jo aapko wapas control mein layen:
- Ek lamba saans lein: Dil se 4 second tak saans andar lein, 4 second roken, phir 6 second tak bahar nikalein. Bas 3-4 baar, aur aapka dimagh thoda thanda ho jayega.
- Us waqt wahan se hat jayen: Agar mumkin ho toh kamre se bahar nikal jayen, chand minute ke liye. Doori aapko gussa aur reaction ke beech faasla deti hai.
- Apne haath mein koi cheez daba lein: Koi soft ball ya takiya. Isse physical energy nikal jaati hai bina kisi ko nuksan pahunchaye.
Dard ko samajhna
Gussa aksar is liye aata hai kyunke andar ka dard suna nahi jaata. Aapko lagta hai ke aapki baat ka koi wazn nahi. Yeh soch kar dekhein: kya aapki ammi ko aapke jazbaat ka pata hai? Kya aapne kabhi khul kar, bina gussa kiye, unhe bataya hai ke aapko kya mehsoos hota hai? Kabhi kabhi humein lagta hai ke log samajh jayenge, lekin unhe humein kehna padta hai. Ek din aise waqt mein jab sab kuch shaant ho, ammi se keh sakte hain: "Ammi, mujhe lagta hai ke aap hamesha behen ka sath deti hain, aur mujhe yeh dard hota hai. Main chahta/chahti hoon ke aap meri baat bhi sunein." Yeh kehna aasaan nahi, lekin yeh pehla qadam hai.
Apna khayal rakhna
Is sab mein aap apni khud ki dekhbhal karna na bhoolen. Jab aapko lagta hai ke ghar mein aapki qadr nahi ho rahi, toh aapko khud ko yeh yaad dilana hoga ke aap ki qadr hai. Kuch aise kaam karein jo aapko achha mehsoos karayen—koi shauq, doston se baat, ya bas thodi si walk. Apne liye yeh waqt nikalna zaroori hai, kyunke aapki khud ki taaqat hi aapko is mushkil waqt mein sambhalegi.
Yeh sab kuch ek raat mein nahi badlega. Ammi ka rawaiyya shayad waqt ke sath badle, ya shayad na badle, lekin aap apne andar ka sukoon zaroor paa sakte hain. Zara se baat karna chahein toh woh hamesha yahan hai, aapki baat sunne ke liye. Aap akela nahi hain.
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