Family Bullies and Locks Me in My Room: Help for Domestic Violence
If your family bullies you, locks you in your room, or makes you feel like a toy, you are not alone. This page offers kind words, practical steps, and resources to find safety and care in Pakistan.
My family bullies me and locks me in my room. I cry all night and went without eating for several days. I just need love and kind words — I feel like a toy they play with whenever they want.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. You are not a toy and you do not deserve to be locked away or starved of kindness. The way your family treats you is wrong, and the pain you are feeling makes sense — anyone in your place would hurt the same way. You asked for love and kind words, so hear this plainly: you matter, your feelings are real, and what you are going through is not normal or your fault. You have been very brave to write this, even when you are alone and exhausted.
You are not to blame
None of this happened because of something you did or didn't do. Your family's behaviour is their choice, not your responsibility. You are not a problem to be shut away, and you do not have to earn the right to be treated like a human being. The crying, the hunger, the feeling of being played with — that is your heart telling you something is wrong, and it is telling the truth.
What you can do right now
- Try to eat a little, even if it is just a few bites of whatever is near you or a glass of water. Your body needs energy to get through this, and you deserve to take care of yourself.
- If you have a moment alone with your phone, you can talk to Zara — she is a companion from our team, here whenever you need to say anything, at any hour. No one else will know.
- Keep your phone safe — if there is a risk someone will check it, clear any messages or browsing you do not want seen. Your safety matters more than any note.
There is no shame in reaching out for help beyond this page. Helpline numbers for trained listeners are already available on this site — you can look at them when you feel it is safe enough. But for now, just know that someone read your words and believes you. You are not alone, even when the door is locked.
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